10 Instructions for Parents of Kids with Special Needs

Published on in Trisomy 21 Update

  1. Take one day at a time, and take that day positively. You don’t have control over the future, but you do have control over today.
  2. Never underestimate your child’s potential. Allow him, encourage him and expect him to develop to the best of his abilities.
  3. Find and allow positive mentors, who can share their experience, advice and support.
  4. Provide and be involved with the most appropriate educational and learning environments for your child from infancy on.
  5. Keep in mind the feelings and needs of your partner or significant other and your other children. Remind them that this child does not get more of your love just because she gets more of your time.
  6. Answer only to your conscience; then you’ll be able to answer to your child. You need not justify your actions to your friends or the public.
  7. Be honest with your feelings. You can’t be a super-parent 24 hours a day.
  8. Be kind to yourself. Don’t focus continually on what needs to be done. Remember to look at what you have accomplished and to take care of you.
  9. Stop and smell the roses. Take advantage of the fact you have gained a special appreciation for the little miracles in life that others take for granted.
  10. Keep and use a sense of humor.

Modified from the original version of The Ten Commandments for Parents of Children with Special Needs, author unknown.